Finding Motivation

This week’s question comes from Krystle.  Krystle can be found at For My Wedding.

What would you say is the thing that influences you, THE MOST to keep going right now?  Do you ever get to the point where you feel good where you’re at and want to stop?

I’ve thought about this question quite a bit and it comes down to finding the motivation or desire to keep going.  When the pleasure of getting healthier and more active and smaller outweighs the pain of having to pass on favourite food items or lay on the sofa, you’ve found the motivation.

I think the thing that influences me the most to carry on is knowing that I can do it, I’ve already proven that to myself.  I don’t have to keep wondering what’s going to happen next, I already know.  That’s the benefit of having stayed with it and having allowed yourself to learn from where you’ve been to help shine a light on where you’re going. 

Some of the things I’ve learned about myself and my body really do help switch that mental dialogue that says mean things and calls you a failure.  For instance, I know that the fourth week of every month I’m going to feel like crap and get the give-ups.  I also know that if I can just get through those 4 or 5 days, everything gets back to normal and that’s what I let play in my head over and over rather than the negative thoughts.  In the past I wouldn’t have paid attention to that sort of thing and the whole thing would have gone for a crap when those 4 days hit, never to be seen or tried again.

I also know that the more you practice it, the more the healthy lifestyle becomes habitual.  Not to say that everyday is a breeze because it’s certainly not.  But it becomes a habit to think about what you put in your mouth first, just like it was a habit for me to comfort myself with large quantities of crappy food.

All those things keep me going.  The number on the scale keeps me going, the way my clothes fit keeps me going, the compliments that I get increasingly often keep me going.  Other people believing in me keeps me going and gets me through the tougher days.  But more than anything, what keeps me going is the knowledge that if I don’t, I only have myself to blame.

As far as the point where I feel good and want to stop?  I have a bit of a different ‘goal’ than most people I read about.  Most people have a number in their head that when they get to it they will be happy.  I know that the number I need to get to so I can stop paying the fee at WW is 174, but I’m not going to be happy with that.  Having come this far and gone through several mini-goals I know that a magic bell doesn’t ring and make me instantly content when I get to a special number.  I’ve decided from the beginning that I will carry on with what I’m doing, add in more exercise if I want to and if I feel comfortable doing it and when my body stops losing it stops losing.  I believe that the body has a set-point and I want to find mine.  Actually, that’s something that greatly influences my desire to keep doing this as well.  Curiosity! 

As far as getting there and then stopping?  I think I would be wasting an awful lot of effort if I stopped doing this when I got to a number.  That’s the beauty of having a set-point goal rather than an arbitrary number.  If this is a lifestyle (and I’m training myself that it is) then there is no stopping point.  There will be a point when I don’t lose anymore but because I haven’t drawn a finish line in the sand, I will have no other option but to keep going.  And that means (theoretically) that I will not come to a point where I have to try and ‘keep it off’.  It will just stay off because I will keep going with my healthy lifestyle.

Thanks for the question Krystle.  That’s one that is near and dear to my heart.  Apologies if the post seems a bit choppy, it was about 3 times as long and I had to trim it back so that people would actually read it! 😉



  1. Bev said,

    January 19, 2008 at 10:38 am

    Loved your explanation and rationale on the body’s set point. Especially for people who don’t know anything about it. It’s the smartest ‘number’ to get to.

  2. Comrade GoGo said,

    January 19, 2008 at 12:19 pm

    I really enjoyed this, and I too appreciated your “set point” goal. I’m going to be there for the whole journey, rooting you on!

  3. Krystle said,

    January 21, 2008 at 9:02 pm

    Excellent Excellent post! Thank you VERY much for answering my question. Every single day that I struggle…….I’m going straight back to your post. I’m NOT kidding, either.

    ♥ Thanks again!

    …Psst, I’ve updated new pictures on my weight loss blog –

  4. p4pretention said,

    January 23, 2008 at 9:36 pm

    Another glorious blog entry.

    I also don’t have a specific weight goal in mind. I work with numbers and I would like to keep them out of my off time. I know I want to look and feel healthy – the sort of healthy where I can bike to the beach, hit the sand and play some volleyball with my friends. The sort of healthy where I can do what I want without being out of breath or sore. These are my goals because I love sports and outside stuff.

    Other things motivate me, at the back of my mind. My mom is sick. She was hella-fit before the MS hit and being at a good level of fitness then has made her life slightly easier than it otherwise would have been. We get this one body, you know, so we sure as a fuck better take care of it or we’re fucked in the end. I feel like I could have dropped the f-bomb one more time.

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